Words Hurt and Words Heal

Been following Lady Budd’s (aka: clanmother) terrific site ( http://ladybudd.com/2013/07/10/personal-brands/ ) last couple of weeks where she’s been posting about the historical origin of words. I responded today with this:

It’s the story that we all love, even the meaning of just one word, its definition, and how it affects our chemistry. I find it absolutely amazing that one word, a kind gentle loving word, can secrete endorphins and serotonin, while another filled with hatred stirs up adrenaline and cortisone (the latter two suppress the immune system).

Wishing all my friends a great day, filled with lots of immune boosting thoughts and experiences. And, may the world be rid of hatred, one tainted heart at a time.



About The Persecution of Mildred Dunlap

The year 1895 was filled with memorable historical events: the Dreyfus Affair divided France; Booker T. Washington gave his Atlanta address; Richard Olney, United States Secretary of State, expanded the effects of the Monroe Doctrine in settling a boundary dispute between the United Kingdom and Venezuela; and Oscar Wilde was tried and convicted for "gross indecency" under Britian's recently passed law that made sex between males a criminal offense. When the news of Wilde's conviction went out over telegraphs worldwide, it threw a small Nevada town into chaos. This is the story of what happened when the lives of its citizens were impacted by the news of Oscar Wildes' imprisonment. It is chronicle of hatred and prejudice with all its unintended and devastating consequences, and how love and friendship bring strength and healing. Paulette Mahurin, the author, is a Nurse Practitioner who lives in Ojai, California with her husband Terry and their two dogs--- Max and Bella. She practices women's health in a rural clinic and writes in her spare time. All profits from her book are going to animal rescue, Santa Paula Animal Shelter, the first and only no-kill shelter in Ventura County, CA, where she lives. (see links below on Ventura County Star Article & Shelter) To find out more please go the The Persecution of Mildred Dunlap on facebook or Amazon or e-mail us at the gavatar addresses. Thank you. (photos: of Paulette, her family, and a reading at The Ojai Art Center, July 2012)
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55 Responses to Words Hurt and Words Heal

  1. tazzielove says:

    I can feel my body react to different words. Kind ones make me feel warm and open. Mean, judgmental ones, tighten my muscles. And, depending on the severity or how it’s delivered (screaming, passively aggressively, etc.) that also creates its own set of reactions. All about the energy.

    • Right on! Candace Pert, author of “Molecules of Emotion” (who was up for a Nobel Price in I believe chemistry) studied the impact of emotions on our chemistry. It aligns with what you just wrote.

      This has always fascinated me. Plus, it’s a great life lesson to pay attention to ones body. πŸ™‚

  2. gita4elamats says:

    That was really interesting, thanks. πŸ™‚

  3. Alison says:

    I have finally bought your book. I always felt I didn’t have time to read – too focused on getting the blog up to date. I’ll publish a new post today, then only one more on Burma and that will be the end of the SE Asia journey. A milestone of sorts. Of course it’s ongoing – next will be all the posts on Mexico but it feels as if there’s the beginning of a little breathing room. Plus . . . . .Danny finally published his book so I have to make time to read what two of my best blogging buddies have written – both no doubt miles better than the thoroughly trashy chic lit I read late nights last week πŸ™‚
    Hugs and love

  4. Uzoma says:

    Oh this is good! Much love and hugs πŸ™‚

  5. immune boosting thoughts

    Never heard it put quite that way but certainly congruent with the writings and ideas of Mary Baker Eddy, Science and Health.

    • Hi Carl,

      I think there’s a lot of commonality with this and the essence of a lot of religions, including Christian Science. That said, hopefully this doesn’t become limiting dogma, false beliefs that obscure medical help or other help when needed. You being a teacher, certainly appreciate the power of thoughts, how they form into realities, world views, and beliefs. The question is balance, not being skewed too much off the bell curve of reality in any direction.

      Thanks for stopping by. I’ve been following yours and really enjoying your clever posts.


  6. 68ghia says:

    Admirable sentiment P.

  7. mixedupmeme says:

    clan mother always has something interesting to offer. Gives enough to learn something new and makes you want to find out more.
    And she is so organized too.

    • Exactly. With several of her posts, I did go searching the net to find out more. The latest ones with word, idiom, origins is so interesting. I like reading the comments back and forth also, and found yours particularly interesting about branding and what you experienced as a teacher. I’ve also experienced that same thing.

  8. seeker says:

    In terms of cognitive speech, I maintain using soft words in order not to arose any negativity in me. As well as trying to translate what others are saying to me. Thank you and have a peaceful day. From P to p.

  9. How interesting everything becomes once the meanings come out.

  10. natuurfreak says:

    Yes that’s the true..words can hurt and words can heal

  11. FlaHam says:

    Paulette, Thank you for the wonderful share, my intelligence level seems to rise when I read the posts you share. I am not saying I am dim witted or anything, it’s just that I never viewed this far away from where I was comfortable. Blogging has openned many a new door, doors that I didn’t even know needed to be openned. Thanks, Please take care, Bill

    • Hi Bill,

      I have the same experience, not from reading my own, lol, but for instance with clanmother, her posts are so interesting and I learn so much. So many other great sites that I learn from as you, yours included, about integrity in authentic writing, so many new and great perspectives are shared that I love and grow with. Hugs to you. ❀

  12. Paulette you are a teacher, an inspiration, and a light. πŸ™‚ Thank you.

  13. jbw0123 says:

    Hi Paulette — Thank you for the heart-healing words, and for the link. I’m off to check out clanmother’s blog

  14. Clanmother says:

    You always give me the gift of thoughts, ideas and hope. What continues to amaze me is that we have the power to choose our words. There have been times when others have given me a message that has been difficult to embrace, but when given with love and compassion, I accept it within the spirit that it was given. I remember phoning up a mentor and articulating what I felt was justified anger – I will always remember the dissenting response. The words were direct, but fair and said with words that moved me forward rather than let me wallow in self-pity. Many hugs!!!

  15. BeWithUs says:

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful thoughts and your lovely blessings!

    Have a great weekend ahead, always~ Cheers!! πŸ˜€

  16. WordsFallFromMyEyes says:

    I find it amazing a word could secrete endorphins etc too. Astonishing.

    How INTERESTING to look at the origins of words.

    I was walking by the beach and an old lady, hunched over, looked homeless, asked could I fix her backpack for her. We had a brief exchange, and only afterwards did I actually think that maybe she wanted someone to touch her, talk with her. I mean, what otherwise is a 70yo looking woman out at that time for, alone, hunched over, weak? Aren’t the others in homes, in loving families?

    I told Daniel “I reckon she just wanted to be touched” and he went “eeewwww!” – I don’t think he understood – but you know what I”m saying? Words, yes, I know the meaning of words.

    Just look at how you feel after reading something inspirational, for instance.

    • I think there’s a lot of insightful truth to what you’re saying, and your intuitive sense that the woman wanted to be touched is probably right on. And, I can completely understand Daniel’s perspective also, which most like could have been mine at his age.

      And, yes, the power of words and what they can do to our bodies is astonishing. Good word to describe it. πŸ™‚

  17. fournier0917 says:

    Ah! words gentle or bold, will build or destroy, with atomic the power they hold… Sadly like news headlines the bold you’re bound hear, as the few words that follow…

    β€œ Ill Placed Word ”
    ~ a lonely guise ~

    What purpose
    Holds justify
    Means that impair
    Or may but destroy,
    Thru malicious slander,
    Save obtuse tormentors
    Who cover cowardice,
    With feign indifference
    Thought so to disguise
    The lonely guise
    Of their ill placed word!

    Β© Jean-Jacques Fournier

  18. Yeah, who ever said “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me?”

    They got it very wrong. Words hurt. Words heal. In Buddhism, we learn to practice “Wise speech.” This encompasses not just avoiding vitriolic language or curse words, but avoiding gossip and avoiding any conversations meant to harm or demean another living soul. Kindness should always be the intention of our words, thoughts, and deeds. Out speech should reflect that. That’s why I don’t swear and I try my best to avoid people who do, Same with gossip–so I avoid the news and all those awful shows on TV… πŸ™‚

  19. this is so true. Steel armor feet thick can’t protect against a careless whisper…

  20. malctg says:

    Hi Paullette. Thank you for liking my poem ‘ From The Battlefield!. The Foureyed Poet.

  21. Office Diva says:

    I loved this; excellent comment on Clanmother’s post.
    I was once in a school where we read an excerpt from Robert Fulgham’s “All I Really Need to Know is What I Learned in Kindergarten”. Mr. Fulgham mentions a story about the natives in the Solomon Islands who do not have heavy equipment, so when they want to chop down a massive tree, they yell and scream and insult it every day for a month until it withers and dies. Then they just push it over when it is dead.

    This sounds just possible enough to be true; however, I cannot verify it. Ultimately, it is at the very least a metaphor for the ripple effect of our words on others. When one continuously abuses another person with negative words, they do indeed kill a piece of that person’s spirit each and every time. I believe that for sure!

    • So grrrrrrrrreat to have you stop by, mommy of golden and yellow lab, who waves from Texas. πŸ™‚ Love the methapor and I’m with you on what harsh/hurtful words do to ones spirit. Dogs show us that, don’t they? Give them a positive, loving command and their tail instantly responds in kind. Yell and … you know where that goes, it’s all in the energy and they get it. So happy to connect with you. Look forward to more and your post on yellow dog, Chaya. Give Shadow and Chaya rubbies from their new friend in California. πŸ˜‰

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  23. jmsabbagh says:

    Hello Paulette , there are words worth more than gold ,they build , save and heal .There are word worth dust ,they destroy and injure .Thank you for the posting.Blessings and regards.jalal

  24. jmsabbagh says:

    l would like to thank you for reading my post (Accolades , Awards ,Virtues.) Always jalal

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