Today in awesome parenting news: A father, who learned that his daughter disowned his grandson because he was gay, responded in the most amazing way.
I’m disappointed in you as a daughter. You’re correct that we have a “shame in the family”, but mistaken about what it is. Kicking Chad out of your home simply because he told you he was gay is the real “abomination” here. A parent disowning her child is what goes “against nature.” The only intelligent thing I heard you saying in all this was that “you didn’t raise your son to be gay.” Of course you didn’t. He was born this way and didn’t chase it any more than he being left-handed. You however, have made a choice of being hurtful, narrow-minded and backward. So, while we are in the business of disowning our children, I think I’ll take this moment to say goodbye to you. I now have a fabulous (as the gays put it) grandson to raise, and I don’t have time for heart-less B-word of a daughter. If you find your heart, give us a call. – Dad.
The letter was posted on Monday to the pro-gay youth organization FCKH8’s Facebook page, to the tune of more than 3,000 shares, 8,000 likes, and 400 comments. “We are going to be sending his grandpa a free ‘Straight Against Hate’ tee for being such an awesome example and inspiring so many,” FCKH8 spokesperson Luke Montgomery tells Yahoo Shine. “The world needs more parents and grandparents like this who know that the true ‘sin’ is rejecting your own children just for them being gay.”
Many parents get it and are expressing their unconditional love in various ways, from penning heartfelt letters to posting Facebook updates that have quickly gone viral. In September, when Michelle Conway McClain from Union, Missouri, learned that her son had come out on Facebook, she posted a response on her own page: “Zach, I was surprised by your Facebook post where you came out. I want you to know that I love you unconditionally. I love you with my actions, not just my words. I’m so proud of you. You are the bravest person I know. I’ll fight for you always. Your sexual orientation does not define you. You are still the boy who forever won my heart. The only thing that concerns me is the number of empty soda cups and tea bottles in your room. Throw them away before ants come inside. I love you always, Mom.”
In March, a father who overheard his son contemplating how to reveal his sexuality, intercepted him with this note: “I overheard your phone conversation with Mike last night about your plans to come out to me. The only thing I need you to plan is to bring home OJ and bread after class. We are out, like you now. I’ve known you were gay since you were six, I’ve loved you since you were born. PS: Your mom and I think you and Mike make a cute couple.” The letter was also posted on FCKH8’s Facebook page.
And in January, a 15-year-old named Laurel came out to her parents by baking them a cake (she called it a “gayke”) with a message that in part read, “Your acceptance would be the icing on the cake.” Then, they ate cake.